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Little Reminders

We're just past halfway into January and for some people, the January blues may be kicking in. I know that for me, personally, I've lost sight of my goals a few times and gone back to old habits. We're only human and it takes time to improve and better ourselves. Here are a few reminders that may stop you from beating yourself up so bad. These tips are kinda related to general life and not just goals/motivation so even if you're not working to improve yourself they may still be helpful.

Try to focus on one thing at a time
Attempting to get one hundred things done all at once will overwhelm you, there's no doubt about it. All you need to do is just single-task. Take it slowly and get one thing done at a time. Don't try to work yourself too hard because you'll likely burn out and lose all your motivation. 

You cannot control everything
This has been difficult for me to come to terms with as I'm a massive control freak. However, it's not possible to control everything and if you could it'd be an exhausting task. Let go of things you have no control over and I promise you that you will feel a weight lifted off of your shoulders.

Good things come to those who work for them
I know this isn't the phrase but I think it's a little better than the original. We live in a world where many people seem to feel entitled to success, we've all been this way. However, simply sitting around and waiting for success won't work. Sorry guys. You have to work for good things in life and they feel much better when you have worked for them and you receive them. 

Not everyone will always like you
It's an unfortunate fact of life, but it's true. I used to spend ages trying to get people to like me and I would even change my personality for them too. At the end of my secondary school life, I realised that not everyone will like me and that's okay. Letting go of feeling hurt when I wasn't in a certain click really helped me. It's hard to accept at first but your friends are much more genuine when you became friends naturally. 

The only way out is through
Kalyn Nicholson recently used this quote in one of her videos and immediately it resonated with me. You can't always run from your problems and sometimes the only way to solve them is to get through them. I always considered myself a 'runner' when it comes to problems but I'm going to try and be a 'througher'. That makes no sense but I love it. 

Thank you for reading, my loves. Remember to be kind to yourself always. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

Deal with Demotivators

Some people are just out to make others feel crappy. It's sad but it's true. Whether we like to admit it or not, almost everyone has one of these people in their life. I know I have a few of them in mine. Learning how to deal with them is hard but it can be done, even if it means not talking to them.

First of all, try and avoid them. Just try your best to stay clear of them - this will make things one hundred times easier for you. I've become quite a pro at avoiding people who kill my vibes, it's a good skill to hone. In the case that they're unavoidable, just ignore them. Take everything they say and just let it go. The truth is that most people will try to pull you down because they see you being happier and more successful than they are and it's easier for them to pull you down than it is for them to work on themselves. My best piece of advice is to just ignore every single word they say because it's just a load of crap. 

When people are talking to you in a way that brings you down, remind yourself in your head why you're doing what you are. I spoke about finding your why in my last post. Just give yourself a reminder of your own reasons and stick to them. Don't let other people try and determine your reasons for you because then you'll never be happy. Stick to your guns and stick up for yourself. Giving in to these demotivating people will just make them think that they have power over you. 

My final tip is also important and effective when approached calmly. Sometimes it can get too much. Being broken down by unambitious people can really make you angry. Deal with them in a calm way - just explain to them what your working for, how will improve you and how much it means to you. If they don't get it after that my bonus piece of advice would be to get rid of them out of your life. 

Thank you so much for reading. I hope this post can help you out! Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

Finding Your Why

You'll see this phrase float around as you look at personal development type posts, it sounds so wishy-washy but believe me when I say it's *life changing*. It's so helpful because it gives you a reason to get shit done. You won't have to sit there and ask why you're doing it because you will know why and that is so motivating. No excuse to sit pondering your reasons. Here are my three steps to finding your why.

Think about what motivates you
Is it being confident? Being able to run 5k in 20 minutes? Getting that promotion? Whatever it is, no matter how stupid it seems focus on it. As long as you have a reason why you're busting your ass trying to do the best you can then you'll do well. I have separate 'whys' for all my goals in life and whenever I feel a bit meh about it, I just give myself a reminder of why I'm doing this. 

Narrow it down
Try and be as precise as you can while working out your reason why. This is because a goal that's too general might be difficult to attain because you never really know what you actually want to gain from your work. For example, losing enough weight to be able to touch your toes is a good goal because it's narrow and there's only really one outcome. This makes it much easier to work towards something but I think there's also a bigger pay off because of how specific your goal is.

Give yourself reminders
Whether you put it on sticky notes throughout your house or you set an alarm on your phone that reminds you of what your reason is - always give yourself a reminder. It's such an easy thing to do and yet it's something that is often forgotten. I love to leave myself little notes in my planner weeks ahead that remind me of why I'm working hard for something.

I hope this post has been helpful, I find this process to be so important within goal setting personally. Feel free to tell me your 'why' in the comments, it'd be so motivating! Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

Quotes I'm Living by in 2018

Here are a few quotes I'm hoping will guide me happily through this year. Hopefully you can also find some inspiration from these.

I hope you enjoyed. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

What I'm Filling My Life with in 2018

Who doesn't love a good list? I know I do. Anyway, here's a list of stuff I want to fill my life with this year. 

  • Positivity
  • Amazing people 
  • Comfort
  • New tunes
  • Knowledge
  • Gratitude 
  • Good vibes
  • Inspiration
  • Creativity
  • Memories
  • Experiences
  • Calmness
  • Travel
  • Happiness
  • Contentment 
I hope you enjoyed. This is a pretty lazy post but I liked the idea of it. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

This Time Next Year

Reading posts or watching videos like this really gives me the motivation to have a kick-ass year so I figured doing one myself might give me that extra bit of drive. Setting goals is literally one of my favourite things to do, just because I'm a bit sad like that. 

Have lost at least three stone
For once in my life, I actually feel like reaching my weight goal is attainable. This year is the year that it's clicked that I'm not happy or confident in my body and that I'm the only person who can change that. I've made some really good choices so far this year healthwise and  I'm quite proud of myself. I'm excited to see how I transform both physically and mentally.

Blog and vlog regularly
2018 is the year I want my blog to do really well. I'm not bothered about earning anything from it but I just really want to put loads of effort into it and see it grow. I also want to start making videos on YouTube again, I honestly don't know why I stopped but I'm excited to restart!

Save at least £250
This sounds like a tiny amount for a year's worth of saving but saving is something I fail at so £250 seemed like a good amount to start at. I have no idea what I'm saving for but having a little bit of money behind me for the new year will be nice. 

Be more present and content
As I said in my to-don't post I want to be more present this year. That involves me just allowing myself to enjoy moments without being on my phone or being distracted. I'm just trying to not be so consumed by stuff that's not important, yknow?

Have suuuuuper long hair
Every year I tell myself that I'm growing my hair and then I get to about June and I get it all chopped off and spend the rest of the year regretting my choice. I've told my mom that she's not allowed to let my cut my hair so hopefully that helps.

I hope you enjoyed reading! What would you like to be different for you this time next year? Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves, 

My Favourite Ways to Unwind

I've done a few posts on getting stuff done so now I thought it was about time I did a post about unwinding. I love getting all my tasks done and just relaxing for the rest of the day. Anyway, without my gabbing on let's get into it.

Read a book
Reading books has always been one of my favourite things to do to relax. I remember being a kid and reading Lemony Snicket's Series of Unfortunate Events before bed every single night. It really helps me get to relax. I have my list of books to read this year, right here! Putting my phone on charge and grabbing my book to read before bed helps me sleep much better.

Have a bath
One of my favourite things to do after a long day (or just a normal day) is to have a nice hot bath. Sometimes I'll use a bath bomb or some bubble bath but I just love the feeling of getting into a piping hot bath and letting all my stress melt away. I mostly sit in there on my phone until I look like either a lobster or a prune but it's still super relaxing. It also feels rewarding after a workout.

Listening to music
I use Spotify every day without fail, I always have some kind of music in the background. Right now, I have my '2018 vibes' playlist on which I am obsessed with as there are some real bops on there. When I'm relaxing I tend to listen to instrumental or piano music - Hans Zimmer is one of my favourite composers to listen to because he's composed the songs for some amazing films.

The past few months, I've been super into meditation, especially before bed. It helps me to relax and think about things in a ration and calm way. Meditation is so unique to each person who does it so I like to sometimes meditate when I'm walking my dog or sat on my bed. Whatever way I feel like doing it at that time.
Go for a walk
Sometimes sticking my earphones in and going for a nice, long walk can make my stress just disappear. Especially in places with a lot of greenery as it just makes me so relaxed. I love taking my dog for a walk in the morning and listening to some upbeat songs, it sets me up for an amazing day.

Thanks for reading guys! What are your favourite ways to relax? Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,

Reading Bucket List 2018

I really want to start reading a lot more this week, I already do quite a lot of reading for uni but I have a really big yearning to start reading for myself more. When I was a kid I used to be such a bookworm so getting back into nightly reading is a big goal for me. I thought I'd make a list of the books I'd like to read throughout the year.

  • The Book of Hygge - Louisa Thompsen Brits
  • The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying - Marie Kondo
  • Big Magic - Elizabeth Gilbert
  • The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k - Sarah Knight
  • Self Care for the Real World - Nadia Narain and Katia Narain Phillips
  • Happy - Fearne Cotton
  • You Do You - Sarah Knight
  • Living a Life of Awareness - Don Miguel Ruiz Jr
  • Calm - Fearne Cotton
  • The Life Coaching Handbook - Curly Martin
You can probably tell that most of these are centred around personal development but that's something I'm putting a lot of emphasis on this year. I hope to talk about these books once I've read them and maybe review them! Thank you for reading. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful. Lots of loves,