Monday, 6 August 2018

Love at a Distance

If you didn't already know this about me, I am in a long distance relationship. I have tried to write this post more times than I'd like to admit but I always delete it halfway through because I don't feel like I can capture just how much happiness my boyfriend and relationship bring me. Oh, spoiler, I am going to get a little cheesy in this post. Also, I apologise for the cringy title, it's the only one that sounded half decent.
One day on Twitter, I followed this random person and I never thought it was going to change anything about my life at all. When I noticed that he had something about Arctic Monkeys in his bio, I was a little bit lovestruck (he was gorgeous too). We started messaging on Twitter for a while and took it onto iMessages not long after. I don't think either of us thought that anything was going to come from us chatting. I live in Telford and he lives in Durham so I could never really see how we could work. Despite this, I fell head over heels for this charming lil Northerner. 

On the 14th of May 2015, we finally made it official. When I would tell my friends and family I would get hit with a barrage of questions just as 'How do you know he's real?' 'How do you know he's not a catfish?' etc etc etc. Trying to justify how I felt to other people always felt a little bit crappy. I just wanted people to be happy because I was happy. We met about six months after getting together which was happily on my birthday weekend. We spent the weekend together in a local hotel. We ordered in a Dominos and paid with mostly changed. We ate birthday cake together with a single teaspoon. Even though it was the first time we'd ever met properly, I felt like I'd known him for years. We just instantly clicked. I felt things for him that I'd never felt before. The first time he left was really emotional but he must have liked me because only two weeks later he came back down to see me. Since then we've spent lots of time together and made some absolutely amazing memories together. We travel, we eat (a lot) and we just have the best time together. 

Long distance is hard, it's definitely not for everyone. It takes time, commitment and perseverance.  I miss Liam every second that I don't get to be with him. We just have a barrel of laughs whether we're together or just texting. He's literally my best friend in the world. I've had a lot of people assume my relationship suffers because of the distance but I actually think it's made us stronger. I really think that the bond between long-distance couples is something that only people who've been through it can understand. It's funny because a lot of people who told me that Liam and I wouldn't last are no longer in their relationship so it just goes to show that you can't predict these things. We're still going strong as anything and only getting stronger day by day. We have very big plans and I can't wait to see them plans come to life. 
I asked on Twitter if anyone had any questions related to long distance and here are my answers to them.
@LRSB96 (the lucky man): What's your favourite hoodie that you've claimed? Hm. I would probably say the Banff one. Mainly because it took me long enough to get it. 
@The_WriteBlog: Would you say it's more easy or hard? Are their sacrifices you both had to make in order for it to work? It's hard not being able to see him whenever I like but it's easy in the way that we get through it together and we cope with it well. Also, I'd probably say that money is the biggest sacrifice we make - travel, food and going out together definitely takes a toll on both our bank accounts but it's worth it.
@WeMidBloggers: What would you say are the differences between long-distance couples vs couples who get to see each other daily? I think that there might be slightly more appreciation for your s/o when you're not able to see them all the time. I also think that sometimes LDR couples have a better understanding of how important it is to have your own hobbies and interests and not do everything together. My boyfriend and I are similar and different at the same time and it just makes it easier for us not to clash. That being said, people who get to see their s/o daily definitely win in my books, I'd love that.

Thank you so much for reading, I hope I wasn't too cheesy. I'm really enjoying being more personal on my blog, I feel loads better.
"Distance means so little when a person means so much" - Unknown
Lots of loves,

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4 comments

  1. Long distance is sooo hard! My boyfriend just moved away so we’re coming to terms with it but seeing how strong yous too are is sooo cute!!

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    1. It's difficult but it's definitely worth it! Thank you so much. I wish you both all the best, you'll work it out x

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  2. I really loved this post, I love when bloggers share their own stories. I have a blog on love and relationships so I particularly enjoy this kind of stuff.
    Hats off to you guys for making this work, it really is hard work and it's so nice when you see couples that don't get devastated by it. I'm planning to do a post on long-distance relationships very soon, I'll keep this one in my mind for sure.
    Also, when you said that the fact you had to justify your relationship with people was crappy... girl let me tell you, NO ONE ever knows what the hell goes on between any two people in a relationship. People judge all the time, but they. don't. know. Only you do.

    Great work!

    The Love Addict
    theloveaddict.net

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    1. AW! This comment absolutely made my day. Thank you so much for your kind words x

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