Selfless v Selfish

My family always taught me that it's good to put other people before yourself, it's something I've been conscious of my whole life. I always try to be a super helpful person who people know they can depend on whenever they need me. My willingness to help is actually one of my favourite things about myself. However, it doesn't always benefit me.


I won't lie and say I've never been selfish in my life either. I live with three other siblings so sometimes I've had to stand my ground and maybe be a little selfish. I don't really think there's a problem with being selfish sometimes. There's this huge thing about putting everyone above yourself in society and I've come to think it's a load of crap. There can be a balance between how selfless and selfish we are. It's not all black and white. 

Sometimes I love to feel helpful, I have no issues at all giving my time to other people. It makes me feel good about myself. Other times, I just want to focus on myself. This is what I've been doing lately. Often it's more difficult for people to say yes to helping themselves than it is to say yes to help someone else. I am always willing to help anyone who needs it. But when it comes to myself needing help with something, I'm a lot more reluctant to do it. This behaviour became clear to me lately. I was really close to giving up on my blog, I just couldn't be bothered with it anymore. It just seemed like loads of hard work. Planning the post, taking the photos for it, writing it up etc. I sat down and wrote down the pros and cons then made my decision. As you can see, I decided to keep going with my blog. If a person asked me for help I would do it for them, so why wouldn't I do it for myself? I've started to let myself feel less guilty why I do things that are for my own benefit. It's not selfish to focus on yourself, your health and your hobbies. It's self-love and self-care.

Thank you so much for listening to my rambling. I apologise if this post seems a little jumbled but sometimes it's just nice to just write what's in my brain. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
"You can't pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself more" - Unknown
Lots of loves,

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