We all have a number of bad habits. I, myself, am a bad habit collecter. I’ve found over time that many of the silly habits I have stopped me from enjoying life as much as I should. The brilliant thing about being a human is that we are always open to change. Don’t like your work ethic? Change it. Not a fan of how you carry yourself in public? Switch it up. There is always space to grow and room to improve. I really find growing as a person so exciting. I love that there are certain things about me that I can mould into what I’d like them to be. Anyway, without me doing anymore yapping, let’s get into the list.
I’ll be the first to admit that I’m a bit of a Negative Nancy when it comes to myself. I will always put myself down before anybody else can. Maybe as a sort of damage control tactic, who knows? However, these last few years I’ve seen myself flourish in ways I never thought were possible. I always told myself I wasn’t smart enough for uni, I wasn’t good enough to hold down a relationship, I wasn’t interesting enough to make new friends. And I really need to stop this because all of these things have happened to me so I need to stop constantly putting myself down.
PEOPLE WHO THINK THEY CAN CHOOSE MY JOURNEY IN LIFE
I’m at that awkward age when I feel like I’m adult enough to make my own decisions but other people around me still like to treat me like a child. Now, I’m not saying that I don’t sometimes need advice or help with life because I do, I’m only human after all. However, when people are a little forceful and try to push their expectations of what they think I should live like onto me it can feel a little suffocating.
PUTTING TOO MUCH PRESSURE ON MYSELF
Unfortunately, I am just one of these people who is constantly putting mountains of unneeded pressure on myself. I’m always telling myself “you need to look like this”, “you need grades like that”, “your blog should be more like theirs” and honestly it can be the most exhausting thing ever. If I was ever as critical to others as I am to myself, I’d have no one. That reality is really sad to me. I (and probably most of you) would never treat anyone the way that we treat ourselves.
HAVING A POOR RELATIONSHIP WITH MYSELF
Ah, this one was hard to admit. Whenever I’m asked for advice I’m always telling people to be nicer to themselves and look at how they treat themselves. I’ve noticed in the last year or so that I can be horrible to myself. I really want to leave that in my teens, I want to work on my relationship with myself.
BUYING INTO ‘FAST TRENDS’
Being a blogger means that I’m exposed to a lot of trends, fads and things that don’t last very long. I’ve never really been a person who dresses on trend really. I just buy whatever might look comfortable and chuck it on. Comfort over style every time. However, I am a fad fanatic so I’m always looking for stuff like that. Y’know, the stuff you use like two times and then never again until you tidy up, find it and use it again two times – a cycle which repeats itself much too often. I’ve decided that I’m just going stop buying into these fast trends and start saving up some money.
APOLOGISING ALL THE TIME
If there was a Guinness World Record for apologising, I would win it every year. I’m constantly saying sorry to people. Even when I’m not the person at fault. I’m always getting told by my family to stop apologising all the time but it’s such a bad habit.
BEING TOO SCARED TO TAKE OPPORTUNITIES
I’m a pretty anxious person and sometimes this can lead to being too afraid to take opportunities that are offered to me. I really want to leave this behind in my teens because I’m fed up with making myself miss out on things that could be absolutely amazing for me. I wish I was one of these spontaneous, ‘live in the moment’ people so I’m going to work on it.
THE NEED TO ALWAYS BE 100% MOTIVATED
Rather than fueling me, motivation is often my excuse to not do something. “I’m not motivated right now”, “my heads not in it” etc. It’s become an excuse for me to procrastinate and just put things off constantly. In my twenties, I want to start pushing myself to do things, even if I don’t really feel like it. Life doesn’t wait for you to be ready all the time.
COMPARING MYSELF TO OTHERS
I think I’ve spoken about this before. It’s something that I feel everyone does but it’s so damaging to our sense of self-worth. I’m slowly learning to celebrate other people and myself rather than put myself down when looking at someone else. It’s going to be a long road but I’m positive that I’ll get to the point where I no longer have to compare myself to other people.
Thank you so much for reading this post, I know it’s kind of wordy and deep but I really enjoyed writing it. It was kind of like a release if I’m honest, saying au revoir to all these habits. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“You leave old habits behind by starting out with the thought, ‘I need release for this in my life’.” – Dr Wayne Dyer
Lots of loves,