At this moment in my life, I’m at a kind of awkward stage in my life. It involves this conundrum of wanting to be more independent but my brain doesn’t yet feel able to hand all of this responsibility. Like, I live at home so while doing my own cooking, washing etc but I still follow the rules of my parents have. So it’s this balancing act, trying to be more self-reliant but being a little unsure on how to handle this ‘adulting’ thing.
BECOME MORE FAMILIAR WITH INDEPENDENCE
In order to become more self-reliant, you’ll want to know what it’s like to be properly independent. Start doing things that other people usually do for you, go on a solo trip by yourself etc. Do things that require you to think for yourself and be by yourself. It’s only by repetition that you become more comfortable with relying on yourself. When I started going to uni I was terrified because I’d never been to Wolverhampton at all with anyone let alone by myself. But after doing it a few times it became second nature.
STOP BEING SO DEPENDENT
I am terrible for relying on other people to do things for me. Whether it’s to order my food, phone the doctors or any other task. In 2019, I’m trying to depend on myself a little more. I know that some of this is attributed to my anxiety but I like to take an approach of pushing myself out of my comfort zones to help with my nervousness. If this is a little too much for you and would lead you to feel worse then please don’t do it but if you think it would work for you, give it a whirl.
BE MORE AUTHORITATIVE
Stop saying sorry all the time, stop asking for permission for silly things, stop putting yourself down. People often only ever treat you how you allow them to so if you are constantly portraying yourself as someone who needs other people to rely on then people will treat you as if you cannot look after yourself. Stick up for yourself more, you deserve to be treated like an adult.
Thank you so much for reading. This post is one I needed myself because I’m terrible at relying on myself. I hope I’m not the only one haha. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.
Lots of loves,