If you are goal driven, often set really high expectations for yourself and have a fear of failure then chances are you are a perfectionist. Perfectionism can be a really good thing sometimes, it can push us to produce our best work. But it can also turn on us and become toxic. Yesterday I spoke about the fact that sometimes our goals and aspirations can put too much pressure on us. I am a victim of my own perfectionism more often than not.
I come up with an idea, say a blog post, I plan it to a high degree, then I start writing but no matter what I put I’m not happy with it. It’s never good enough. Sometimes I’ll give up in the writing process or sometimes I’ll power through and the pressure hits again when I come to take the photos, no photo fits the post. Then I just give up. I cannot count how many times I’ve done this to myself and that upsets me because I know that I can produce good work without constantly questioning my methods.
KILL THE COMPARISON
I’ve made it a goal of mine lately to stop letting my perfectionism get in my way so much. Don’t get me wrong, I actually think some of my perfectionist traits are what have helped me along in some aspects. One of my biggest problems is that I compare myself to other people and this really trips out my perfectionism. I’ll look at another bloggers posts and feel so crappy about my own. Whether it’s how they write, how good their photos are or just anything. I am such a sucker for putting myself down. So this is the first thing I wanted to sort out.
I’m slowly learning to appreciate the work and success of other people without using it as something that I can make myself feel shitty about. Doing stuff like this has really helped with my passion for my blog because it’s my little baby. For ages, I felt like I wasn’t good enough to be a blogger and I’ve smashed them negative thoughts by just appreciating what I create.
I’ve also started putting a lot more time into things. I am a notorious rusher. Forever leaving things until the last minute to get them done. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of planning ahead especially with my blog. Believe it or not, this post was written exactly a month ago today. Planning ahead gives me the time I need in order to get stuff done to a degree that I’m proud of.
Before I used to rush-write a blog post the same day I wanted it to be up but you will never see me doing that now because it doesn’t work for me. I’ve also been doing the same with my uni work. I’ve stopped trying to push out a good essay the week before the due date because I never seem to get the grades I want when I do this. I think the timelines we need are very personal to us. I also think that how well we work under pressure is very unique to who you are.
FIND THE GOOD WITHIN THE BAD
The last thing I’ve been doing is learning to find the positives that are hidden in the negatives shadow. So if I write a blog post that didn’t do too well then I look at it and question why it maybe flopped a little. Was it too dissimilar to what I usually write? Was it rushed or forced out? I use the bad aspects of things and turn them into something I can use as a point of improvement. Sometimes it’s not about getting rid of the traits that aren’t so good. It’s about turning them into something that is able to help you progress and become the best version of yourself. Treat your perfectionism like a 30-year-old still living at home, you can stay as long as you help out and contribute. That is probably the worst analogy ever but I’m sticking with it.
Thanks so much for reading! I will see you again tomorrow for a new post in this lil’ Bloguary series. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“Strive for progress, not perfection” – Unknown.
Lots of loves,