So, it’s that time of year when all setting ourselves goals aka the start of the new year. If you’re a person like me then you thrive off of a new year and blank state, but you also put a little too much pressure on yourself when it comes to setting yourself resolutions. I’m usually the type of person who set some self a ridiculous amount of goals that I need a ridiculous amount of work. For example, I set myself things like I want to say £30,000 or I want to lose 10 stone you know, the ridiculous kind of goals. While I think it’s really good to set yourself goals, I think sometimes set in these goals is why actually pushes me further back in life because I put so much pressure on myself to do so much that I just I crack on that pressure and end up achieving nothing at all. This is the issue I’ve had the last few years. In 2019 I’m really trying to set myself more reasonable goals that are personal to me. I kinda think that we’ve introduced is the level of toxicity when it comes to goal setting and this something that doesn’t really sit right with me. If you’ve just had a scroll through my blog, then you might already be aware that one of my goals with my blog is to help people set and achieve goals. But as I said before I do think sometimes, we put a little bit too much pressure on ourselves so in this blog post, I’m gonna talk about how you can start making reasonable goals for yourself in order to start living your best life.
WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?
My first tip is to realise what you really want. I am the type of person who wants so much out of life. I want my life to be such a full experience that I lose myself in what I truly want. Sometimes I set three or four little goals that could be branched into one bigger goal which doesn’t seem so daunting. An example of this is a goal of being healthier in the new year and that is a really good big goal that can be split into smaller goals like eating more vegetables, working out three times a week and getting more sleep. All these little goals can be lumped into one bigger goal. Another thing I tend to do that links to this point is that I turn other people’s goals and/or successes into my own. So if I see that a blogger has an Apple MacBook I’ll be like “God I’m not a real blogger because I don’t have a MacBook, I need to save up for a MacBook now” even when my own laptop works perfectly and is less than a year old so I don’t need one, I just want one because someone else has one. This is why I think it’s so important to make sure that your goals speak to you. I’m not saying that taking inspiration from other people is wrong because it’s not but always ensured that your resolutions are something that you see value in putting your time, energy and maybe money into.
WHY DO YOU WANT IT?
The next thing I do when I’m setting goals once I’ve realised what I really want is to figure out why do I want this? Do I want it because it’s going to make me more confident? Do I want it because it’s going to help me relax? Or do I want it simply because everybody else I know does it and I’m going to feel left out if I don’t start? I think that goals without a reason why you want them are I just empty goals. I always find that I’m willing to work a lot harder for something if I know exactly what I want it. For example, when it comes to uni I want to study hard to get a good degree and ultimately go into a career that I love. The reasons why I want to study hard and get a good degree make sense. Whereas if I was to say I am going to study hard and get a degree because my cousin has a degree and I want to get a better degree to her I think that this is a little bit negative I don’t think this is the right way to go about achieving something.
TAKE BABY STEPS
The next thing I think is super helpful is splitting your goal up into smaller steps. For example, say I wanted to save up £1000 this year. There are certain steps and you have to take in order to get this done. The first one being I have to set up a savings account, next one is I have to remember to put money in the savings or to self-pay automatic transfer into the savings account and the Next step is to make sure that I don’t take money out of the savings account unless absolutely necessary. So although there is a bigger goal of saving money there are also smaller goals within that big goal. I am very easily overwhelmed so splitting resolutions up like this is a huge help for me because it allows me to look at the smaller tasks which seem a lot more doable.
KEEP YOURSELF UPDATED
Lastly but probably most importantly – keep yourself in check. We often set goals and never come back to review how we’ve been doing, and we just wait for the end result. This is a fine way of doing things, but you see, I am very impatient, and I like to see consistent progress which is why I do a monthly goal review. I’ve lovingly made you a template to use with examples of how I do my review which I hope you find helpful! Anyway…I think it’s so important to keep yourself accountable and know where you are in your goal. If your goal is to get 20,000-page views on your blog in 2019, make sure you’re taking the right steps and being consistent in your work. Are you posting regularly? Are blog posts being promoted? How many views are you at in April? Answering these simple questions are really good for ensuring you’re smashing your resolution while taking all the right steps to help you.
Thank you so much for reading! I hope this post and the template are able to help you set and smash your goals for 2019. See you tomorrow. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“There are far, far better things ahead than any we leave behind” – C.S Lewis