I feel like maybe the title to this post is a little bit ambiguous so let me explain myself. Some of you, like myself, are a little paranoid after watching the Ted Bundy Tapes. When I say ‘getting rid of people’ I’m referring to getting them out of your life. You know the people I’m talking about – the toxic people. Toxic people come in various forms but that’s a post for another time.
For most of my life, I have been a carpet. I’ve allowed people to walk over me. I’ve let people treat me badly consistently etc. You get the idea and I’m going to venture a guess and say some of you are like me?
Soft, sensitive souls too frightened to say when someone is doing them wrong? Well, I show both of my middle fingers to that notion.
I’m a self-confessed people pleaser which makes it kinda difficult for me to get rid of people in my life. But I’d been noticing that these people me feel like shit. I had to question whether or not I’d rather feel guilty for a few days for deleting their number, blocked them or just stopped talking to them so much. Or continue to be put down, laughed at or condescended to. I decided to stick up for myself a little more.
In a previous post, I mentioned that people will only treat you the way you allow them to. This sounds slightly harsh, I know. It’s true for the most part though. If people believe that they can treat you badly and get away with it, they will.
Am I finally getting to the point of this post? I hope so.
My point is that we need to stop feeling guilty for standing up for ourselves. We need to stop feeling guilty for blocking or unfollowing people. We need to stop feeling sorry for not talking to people.
Even if that person is a family member or a really close friend. This proximity doesn’t give people the right to constantly make you feel like less than you are. We need to stop feeling guilty for standing up for ourselves.
Thank you so much for reading, I hope this made some sense as it was a little rambly hah. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“If you fell down yesterday, stand up today” H.G Wells
Lots of loves,