For some people, they know that they want to go to university from a pretty young age and for others it’s a snap decision at the end of college. Or if you’re an awkward human like me, you’re kind of in the middle. I really never thought that university was a place for someone like me. Not that there’s anything wrong with me but I never saw kids from council estates who come from broken homes going to university in the media. It was posh kids who had horses and butlers. That last bit may be a slight overreaction but still.
I was an average achiever in school. I never lagged behind but my work was never on the boards or shown around the class for how brilliant it was either. I made the decision to go to university in college. I had been doing an A-Level in Sociology and I found that it was something that made my lil’ heart happy. So in my last year, I signed up to be put into the tutor group that would be doing personal statements and UCAS forms. The whole process kind of freaked me out a bit because no one else in my family has ever been to university.
There are a few reasons why I wanted to go to university and the first one is that I wanted to learn more about a subject that I’m passionate about. You know the kids who always have to ask “why?” after everything someone says – well, I was (and still am) one of them. My whole degree is based around looking at what people do and asking “why?” so it’s the perfect degree for me.
My second reason is that I wanted to prove myself wrong. I am my biggest critic and for ages, I told myself I wasn’t smart enough for university or that I’d never get the grades to get in. I kinda proved myself right with the second reason because my A-Level grades were crap so I got in through clearing but am I enrolled? YES. I wanted to prove to myself that me, the council estate girl who’s always been average, that I could get my degree.
Mixed in with the reason above is the desire to make my family proud. I am the eldest of my siblings and the first-born for all of my grandparents so I have a really deep desire to make these people proud and set an example. My family have always been so supportive of me and they encourage me to go for things that they never had the opportunity to do so I really want to make them proud. And I want to make myself proud too.
People are pretty surprised when I tell them that I don’t go to university for an ‘experience’ aka getting pissed every weekend and being constantly hungover, I go for a degree. I know this sounds a little snooty but it’s my own personal outlook. As I mentioned in ~this~ post, people are entitled to make their time at university the experience that they want it to be but we’re all different. I know that this puts a lot of people off if they are non-drinkers too because you feel like you’re going to miss out but honestly, no one really cares if you don’t drink they will still chat to you. And if they put pressure on you to go out when you don’t want to then get rid of them, no one needs friends like that.
I completely get that university isn’t for everyone. It just isn’t and you shouldn’t feel crappy because you don’t want to go. Some people can’t learn in a classroom environment, they prefer to be more practical in their learning. Some people aren’t able to cope with the pressure of deadlines and assignments. Some people might think university is a right old waste of time that just gets you into debt. People are 100% allowed to chose their own path in life and no one should feel like a better or worse person because of what they chose to do.
Going to university doesn’t mean people are automatically successful in life. I have family members with their own businesses that are thriving and they never went to university. I also know of people who have a degree who have made nothing of themselves. It’s all about what is right for you. If that’s not university then that’s just fine. If it is university then crack on. Never let anyone else write your story for you.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed my first post in the studying week of Bloguary. Did you chose to go to university or not and why? See you tomorrow for a new blog post. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“Understand that the right to choose your own path is a sacred privilege. Use it. Dwell in possibility” – Oprah Winfrey.
Lots of loves,