I’m sure that you’re all aware that LDR means long-distance relationship. I’m also sure that you probably know that I am in one. I babble on about it on my blog and Twitter. A few people ask me if I’d change anything about my relationship and I would usually say the distance between us. However, on reflection, I think that the distance between us is one of the things that has made our relationship the way it is. In this post, I’m going to list a few reasons why I wouldn’t change us.
LEARNING TO SPEND TIME APART
Not that I wouldn’t love to spend every moment with Liam but I think that having independence within a relationship is super important. Distance couples are obviously experts at this but I think it’s vital for any relationship. We both know that we’re comfortable having time apart. We have different ideas about having fun and different hobbies that we do without each other.
TIME TOGETHER IS ABSOLUTELY SACRED
When you only get to see one another every few months, the time you get together is so so important. I think that is is something you’ll only understand if you’ve had a relationship like this. I love seeing Liam because he’s not only my boyfriend but my best friend too and making new memories with him is my favourite thing.
PROVING PEOPLE WRONG
Is this a little petty? Maybe but I’m rolling with it. I got with Liam in my last year of secondary school and almost everyone had something to say about it. “That’ll never last” “How do you know he is who he says he is?” How can you trust him?” etc. It’s funny that my relationship is one of about three that lasted from school. So yeah, a slightly petty point but an important one nonetheless.
EASILY RULED OUT ANY GAMES
People like to play games in relationships and fool around. However, you feel a lot less inclined to be in a relationship with someone you don’t really want when a visit is costing you £100+ each time. The effort you have to put into long distance is something that only someone who truly cared about you would do. This for me ruled out the possibility that I was just a quick fling and someone to kill time with. I’m aware that this isn’t always the way but luckily for me, it was.
TAKING IT MORE SERIOUSLY
I’m only speaking for my own relationship here so I can’t attest to how other people are but Liam and I never argue. Maybe that’s due to our non-confrontational attitudes. But on the whole, when we’re miffed with one another we don’t throw side-eye and get petty. We talk about it like adults because we put way too much time, money and effort into this relationship to be childish about it.
IT TEACHES STRENGTH AND PATIENCE
Being patient is not something that comes naturally to me but being with Liam has taught me that good things do come to those who wait. It’s also taught me to be stronger. Being without your favourite person for months on end is bloody difficult sometimes. I am a ball of emotions even with being doing this for four years now but I’ve learned that both of these traits hold such value.
Thank you so much for reading. I hope you enjoyed this post and my cringiness. See you tomorrow for the last post in Bloguary! Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.
“Distance is just a test of how far love can travel” – Unknown.
Lots of loves,