IS THERE TOXICITY IN SELF-DEVELOPMENT?

Wow. Calling out my own niche, what’s going on?

On a real note, I’ve been reflecting a little bit lately. A few weeks ago in my media lecture, my tutor mentioned about ‘lifestyle gurus’ and how they’re always insinuating that you’re not good enough through giving you tips on how to live your *best life*. I felt a pit in my stomach almost instantly. Now, I’m no guru but the main category on my blog is self-development. So now I’m sat in there feeling guilty and worrying about whether or not I’m one of those people.

Back in January, I wrote a post all about why I write about self-development. Side note, why does January feel like it was ages ago? Anyway, the crooks of it are that I write about self-development because I absolutely love it. I love seeing what I can do in order to improve as a human. Is that because I think that I’m a shitty person who needs to get better? No, it just means that I’m curious to see my potential as a person. What can I do when I get up at 5 am every morning? How do I feel when I do yoga before bed? I want to know what I can achieve when I do different things within my day.

I completely understand that for some people this is a bore. They’re not bothered about journalling, yoga or positive affirmations. They might, frankly, think that all of that is a pile of shit. And that’s completely okay. I don’t think of people with that view of being any lesser than me. A few of the people closest to me think in that way and it doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

DO YOU NEED TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE?

Honestly, if you’re happy with how you’re living your life and you feel truly content then no. I’d love to know your secrets to being happy with everything though, please. Some people (like myself) enjoy growing and developing as a person. Trying new things out to see how they affect my happiness and wellbeing. It’s a passion of mine. You don’t have to listen to a word that I or any other person says about self-development. I don’t have all of the answers, I’m not sure anybody does really but, I enjoy sharing the things that help me grow on my little slice of the internet.

TAKE EVERYTHING WITH A PINCH OF SALT

I might meditate every day and find myself feeling elated and enlightened, you might do the same and find yourself bored and with a dead leg after sitting cross-legged for five minutes. Not everything I put on my blog will work for other people. This applies to all people who write or talk about self-development but it’s all about trial and error. I tried bullet journalling because I was told it would change my life – I hated it. It was too much fiddling about for me. So please don’t think everything is gospel when it comes to people talking about *living your best life*.

WHAT IF I DON’T WANT TO BE BETTER?

As I mentioned before, I can completely appreciate that there are people who really see no need to improve anything in their life. And why should you? My objective is to never make people feel like they need to be better. I never want people to feel as if they’re not good enough as they are. For me, that’s not what self-development is about. Developing yourself is about realising that you’re a fucking bomb human and being able to enhance and grow the areas of you that make you feel like nothing can stop you.

On an end note – I don’t have all the answers and I will never profess to but something that brings me joy is letting others know what has helped me out. Have a lovely day and stay beautiful.

“Life is a journey, not a destination” – Ralph Waldo Emerson.

Lots of loves,

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