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why I’m taking a break from lifestyle influencers

My love for writing about self-development and growth came from starting my own journey and watching some amazing influencers make good changes to their lives while also helping you to do the same.

The only problem is that I’ve started comparing myself to these people that I watch. I’ve mentioned Kalyn Nicholson, MuchelleB and Amy Landino before within blog posts because these are my favourite YouTubers who are big into personal development. I’ve found recently that when I’m watching them, rather than feeling motivated to make changes, I’m getting myself into a negative headspace. I’m not ashamed to admit that I can be a very jealous person. It’s not my favourite personality trait that I possess but I’m working on it hahah.

I can get jealous of their lifestyles and being a bit bitter about the time that they can spend on their self-development journey because they don’t work your conventional 9 to 5 job or they aren’t in university or living with their parents etc. Now, this isn’t to take away from these influencers because they work freaking hard to be in the position that they are and I’m not at all putting them down. It’s now how they make me feel, it’s how I’m making myself feel about them.

I’d love to live their lives. But I have to remind myself that I only see what they chose to show. They may not show the parts of life that aren’t so live your best life-y. I really have to remind myself that they are humans, like me with twenty-four hours in their day, like me. To reiterate, I feel no hatred towards them, they inspire me massively. But my inspiration is coming from a crappy place at the moment which is no help at all.

Rather than thinking “I want to implicate them changes into my life in order to be a happier person”. Or “that would be a good habit to pick up as it would save me time” etc. I’m being negative. I’m telling myself that I’m lazy or that I wouldn’t stick to the habit because I’m fickle. Or that I’ll never have a life like there’s because I don’t hustle for it. I’m using their advice to bully myself. Which a) the creators wouldn’t want and b) I don’t want. I only ever want myself to be on this journey because of positive things. There’s no space for negative vibes on this journey.

So, I’m taking a step back. I’m unsubscribing for two months to see how I feel after. Again, the problem isn’t with them, it’s with me. I know this pattern too well and if I continue watching them within a negative mindset I’ll slip back into habits that I’ve conquered these last few years. It’s super important to take a step back and look at your own behaviours from an outsiders point of view. We all have a few toxic traits here and there. There’s no shame in that at all. There’s also no shame in helping yourself find a way to deal with those traits and turn them into something positive.

This was super rambly and I don’t know if it will come out as I intended it to but hopefully, you got my flow. Keep your journey full of light and good vibes.

♡ Have you ever had to stop doing something because it was having a negative effect on your lifestyle?

It’s hard to see things when you’re too close. Step back and look” – Bob Ross.

Until next time,

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(6) Comments

  1. It can be so important to take a step back and it sounds like it’ll really benefit you too. Totally agree that its so important to have feeds full of stuff that inspires you, rather than drags you down xx

    Hannah | luxuryblush

    1. Katie Yvonne says:

      I think it’s something that has needed to be done for a while. No doubt I’ll go back to following them again because they are so inspirational and their my kinda people but I need a break for now haha. Thanks for reading lovely. Have a good day x

  2. I get how seeing lifestyle bloggers can affect the way you feel about your own development and lifestyle. I religiously watch some of the same bloggers, like Kalyn, and it’s easy to compare. I think you have made a very sensible decision, and hopefully these two months will make you reflect – and maybe then you can go back to enjoying these creators’ content again! That would be awesome!
    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, you’re not the only one feeling that way I’m sure! 🙂

    Julia x

    1. Katie Yvonne says:

      That’s just it! I think I need just a little break to work on myself. Because it’s not Kalyn Nicholson’s fault I’m feeling stagnant in my growth aha, it’s mine. Thank you for taking the time to read. I’m glad my post made some sense haha.

      Have a lovely day x

  3. I totally agree with you on this! When things are no longer serving me in a positive way, I simply remove myself from the situation. Be it by unfollowing someone on social media, or walking away from an old relationship. People change and grow, and sometimes you need a little break to reassess what you like and who you are. xx
    El // Welsh Wanderer

    1. Katie Yvonne says:

      I couldn’t agree with you more El! Thank you for reading lovely xx

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