Today is the day that my first-born sibling turns eighteen!! I’ve sibling-ed a child into adulthood and let me tell you, it’s been a journey. I became a big sister at the ripe old age of three. Yep, I had a mere three years of freedom before being latched with a demon child. On a real note though, I love being the eldest sister. I have a few power trips here and there but overall, I love it. I feel like being the eldest has lots of benefits, y’know, other than sitting in the front seat f the car and being Mom’s secret favourite child. It’s given me skills that I’ll probably carry forward into motherhood one day. Being the eldest child can do a lot for your character development so here are some of the things that being a big sister has taught me.
How to be a good role model
For me, being a good role model is at the forefront of my responsibilities as a big sister. I take it very seriously. My parents always used to tell me that little kids operate on a ‘monkey see, monkey do’ kinda basis. And other than their parents, who are kids most likely to look up to? Their older sibling. Now, I’m by no means a saint but I haven’t ever really done anything bad. To be completely honest, I’m a bit of a square. Either way, setting a good example and showing them the best ways to behave and just how to be a good human is something I’ve picked up.
The importance of patience
When you’re an older sibling, you really do need the patience of a saint. If there’s one thing I hate it’s being on other peoples time and you have lots of that as a sibling. Waiting for my sister to decide what she wants for dinner in Lidl before it closes or waiting for my brother to put his shoes on or waiting for my other sister to finish doing her eyebrows. You do a lot of waiting on these little rascals so patience is very important. Also, as an older sibling with a few years of extra brain development, it can be painful to watch your younger siblings do things you know they wouldn’t have done if they had the extra few years of development. It’s all about keeping your cool.
How to win arguments
I may be a little bit biased but I would say that as the eldest sibling I win every argument outright. If that fails then I win because I’ve been arguing on an almost daily basis since 2001 so I know what I’m doing. It’s gotten to the point now where people in my house won’t even try and argue with me because they know it’s futile.
How to make up after a fight
After my previous point, this is definitely really important. Siblings fight. I share a room with two of my sisters so we’re always under each other’s noses and eventually one of us will get riled up and something will start. But we let the dust settle and then we hug it out. Siblings can go from one extreme to the other, one minute you’ll want to throw the nearest solid thing at them and the next you’ll be dancing around your room to Mamma Mia.
♡ Do you have any siblings?
“Sisters and brothers are the truest, purest forms of love, family and friendship, knowing when to hold you and when to challenge you but always being a part of you” – Carol Ann Albright Eastman.
Until next time,