I’ve been yabbering on a bit about my long-distance relationship lately but it’s a topic that people seem really interested in and I quite like talking about it if I’m honest. In 2015, it was found that 14 million people consider themselves to be in a long-distance relationship. That’s absolutely mindblowing when you think about it. I get lots of questions about being in a long-distance relationships and this is one of the most popular ones. Coping with long-distance can be really hard at times but over the last four and a bit years, I think I’m getting the knack of it now.
Get used to doing your own thing
Being in a long-distance relationship means that you have to spend a lot of time away from your partner. This isn’t easy, especially after the first few visits but you do get used to it. Even though Liam and I are big parts of each other’s lives, we still have our lives where we live. He has a full-time job and I’m in university so we have our own stuff going on. It’s probably the hardest part of the relationship because we’d love to visit each other all the time but it’s just not possible so you need to learn how to be apart.
Do stuff together while being apart
Finding fun things to do together even when you’re apart is a really good way of getting through the distance. Liam and I like to play quiz games together and 8 Ball Pool, although he thrashes me on 8 Ball Pool. We also used to try and watch stuff on Netflix while we were apart but we have pretty different tastes in what we watch so that didn’t really work aha. There are always fun little things that you can do even while being apart.
Always have a plan in place
It can be hard to not see each other every day but having a plan in place can really help. Nine times out of ten, Liam and I already have a date set to see each other again which makes it loads easier to get by. If we can’t put an exact date on it then we just have a little plan for when we do see each other. I know that Liam and I are going to Borth next time he visits for my birthday in November. But I also have a plan that when I go and see him up North again hopefully before Christmas for us to go to Ghetto Golf and Lumley Castle. So having little plans and ideas is always handy!
Trust, trust, trust
I’ve said this is most of my posts about long-distance but only because it’s so important. Any relationship without trust will fall apart swiftly but especially ones with distance. Don’t let yourself overthink and make up silly scenarios in your head because it will kill everything. If your partner feels that they cannot be trusted when you’re not with them they’ll feel crap and you’ll feel crap because you’re overthinking little things. If there is any issues then bring them up but don’t suffer in silence.
Go the distance
It sounds a little cringey but put effort into your relationship. Make plans for the future. Ask what you can do in their area. Think about adventures you can go on together. Although within distance relationships there is effort put in to see each other when you can but when you’re apart it really takes minimal effort. Put in that little bit more effort to make it work. Don’t get lazy and complacent. Keep that fire burning, any way you can *wink wink*.
♡ If you’re in a long-distance relationship, how do you cope with the distance?
“Distance gives us a reason to love harder” – Unknown.
Until next time,