If I ever mention my blog people often ask what I write about and when I say that I write about personal growth and development, they look a little confused. Although I am actually 20 years old, I look about 12 so I can understand their confusion. Why would people want to take personal development advice from someone who looks like they haven’t even finished their hormonal development?
I actually have had a few people ask me what a twenty-year-old knows about self-development and actually, I know quite a lot. So, in this post, I’ll be debunking a few misconceptions about personal development.
It costs money
The great thing about personal development is that it’s free. Of course, there are books, courses or coaching sessions that you can pay for if you’d like to but there’s no requirement to spend money.
So much of what we do in life requires some sort of payment in return for results but personal development is 100% free. I think that is something that puts people off which I completely understand so being reassured that you don’t have to spend a penny unless you want to may help you start your journey earlier.
You have to be like 30+
A lot of people have this idea that you have to be a 30+ divorcee who had everything then lost it in order to be interested in self-development but I am none of those things. I’m in my early twenties and I’ve been on my growth journey since I was about eighteen.
I got interested in it after watching MuchelleB, Kalyn Nicholson and a few other YouTubers who make similar videos. For ages I thought the same, I was like ‘well I’m so young what do I possibly have to change about my life?’.
For me, personal growth is how I’m moulding my life while it begins so that I don’t hit that plateau at thirty. Am I saying I never will? No, but I’d rather do what I can now to cultivate my life into what I want to be rather than look at my life in ten or twenty years and think…who am I and what have I actually done?
You can start your self-development journey at any age but I think it’s a brill idea to start when you’re a young adult so you can really create the life you’d love to live early on.
You have to be single
Much like with my point above, people have asked me how I focus on personal development while being in a relationship. It’s honestly not that hard if I’m honest. In fact, I think being with Liam has helped because he helps me on my journey.
Now, I’m not saying that you have to start or finish a relationship to begin your journey. It really does not matter what status your love life is in because it’s not about that, it’s about you. If you’re in a decent relationship then your other half won’t stunt your self-growth. You should be able to grow both together and alone.
It comes from a place of self-hate
When I say “live your best life” or “be the greatest version of yourself” people may assume that these sayings and even my journey, in general, come from a place of self-hatred. I don’t hate myself. Quite the opposite actually.
I love myself enough to see that I can make changes in order to cultivate the best life I can for myself. Putting effort into my own growth is a sign of my love for myself. My first tip for anyone who wants to start their self-development journey would be to love yourself first.
You will get nowhere on your journey if it comes from a place of negativity. Start off by loving and accepting yourself for who you are and then start building on that.
♡ Are you on a personal growth journey?
“Life is growing. If we stop growing, technically and spiritually, we are as good as dead” – Morehei Ueshiba.
Until next time,