I’ve reached that age now where people like to ask me questions I don’t have the answer to. And while it’s absolutely lovely that people want to know what’s going on in my life and what my plans are, these questions can make me freak out a little bit.
I kinda wish I could just redirect them to a nice tidy FAQs page which has a cookie-cutter answer detailing exactly what I know they want me to say. A few examples of the questions people like to ask me are…
- What are your plans for when you finish university?
- Will you move up to Liam or will he be coming to live down here?
- When are you going to get married?
- When do you think you’ll have kids?
These questions send me into a state of overwhelm because honestly, I don’t have answers to their questions. I have my own answers to them but they’re for me and a few people I hold close. While I like to be very open on my blog, there are somethings that for me, I like to keep them personal.
The pressure of answering
For people to ask these types of questions must mean that they have some sort of expectation that I have an answer. They definitely aren’t asked in a rhetorical manner anyway, even if I wish they were. So, this means that they want an answer. They want an answer because they think I have the answer. Liam and I have chatted privately about kids but it’s not something either of us is 100% on yet and I don’t think we will be yet. I’m not going to answer that question because I don’t know the answer.
And the pressure of answering comes along with than feeling a little bit behind in life because people want answers. Then I’m like “Am I behind in life?”, “Should I know the answer?”, “Should we be planning this already?” and so on and so forth. I kinda then have to remind myself that I am exactly where I need to be in life.
Wanting my privacy
As I said before, I kinda enjoy my privacy. We live in a world where everyone seems to know everything about everyone. I’d much rather keep it on a ‘you’ll know if I want you to know’ basis. People probably see that as a little bit strange with me being a blogger and having online platforms but I don’t share absolutely everything.
Does that mean that other people shouldn’t? Not at all. I love that people share their life experiences and all the nitty-gritty that come with that! It’s just not me, yknow? It’s not so much hiding my life away because I don’t want people to know but it’s more about I like to keep myself to myself.
Taking life at my own pace
I’m a huge advocate for taking life at your own pace. Even more so now that I’m more involved in Law of Attraction. I truly believe that things in life happen when they are meant to and that you’re always where you need to be in life. Even if it doesn’t feel that way. I don’t really want to rush through life. Things will happen when the universe wants them to and that’s different them for everyone.
Some people want children at eighteen, some people don’t want to go to university, some people never want to get married. We all have different life paths. As a couple, Liam and I are very similar in the fact that we don’t want to rush into things that we don’t think we’re ready for yet.
Not actually knowing what on earth I want
The question that I struggle with the most is “What are you doing after university?” and this is because I have absolutely no bloody idea. I don’t know when I’ll be getting married. No clue what I want to do after university. Totally baffled about whether or not I want kids one day. I just don’t know some of the answers to these questions. Again, I know that people aren’t asking these to stress me out but they do. People only ask because they’re interested or care about what I’m doing.
“Your speed doesn’t matter. Forward is forward” – Unknown.
Until next time,