Some things just aren’t worth our time. We all have a different perception of what is and isn’t worth our time however there are some things that are universal in this respect. As I’m delving deeper into my personal growth journey, I’ve been finding it really beneficial to look at how I spend my time. From a ~deep~ point of view, when it comes to life, all we have is time. How you spend it is completely up to you but we all have the same amount of hours in a day. Queue the OITNB theme song…yoooooou got timeeee.
What I’m getting to is the fact that we spend way too many of our minutes on things just aren’t worth their while. So, I’ve made a list of a few things that I would say are pretty general in terms of ‘crap to do less in order to be happier’. Side note: this is a personal list so if you don’t agree then that’s 100% fine! We all have our own views.
Being around toxic people
My Nanny Yvonne was always very clear on the fact that we aren’t put on this earth to be made to feel like crap by other people. Cutting out toxic people is something I advocate pretty strongly for after cutting my father out of my life earlier this year due to how crappy our relationship was, I opened up about this situ in this blog post.
It’s not always possible to cut these people out if you live with them or see them on a regular basis but just trying to spend as little time in their presence will have such an impact on your life.
Putting yourself in situations you don’t want to be in
I’m a yes-woman. A people pleaser. Call it what you will, I love helping people out and sometimes I get myself into situations that either I feel really uncomfortable in or that have a detrimental effect on my mood or mindset. I’m slowly learning how to say no, in the nicest way possible of course. I’m learning that I have the right to say no and people won’t get angry if I turn them down politely. We all have situations that we don’t want to be in.
Setting personal policies have been integral to this process because they give me a foundation to work from. I also have a blog post on setting those if you’d like to read that, it comes with a lil’ worksheet that should help you get an idea of what will be beneficial for you.
Wasting money that you should put away
Now…this is a very new and ongoing development with me. Long story short, I am terrible with money. It burns a hole in my pocket and I can never budget or save anything. However, I’m now saving for a house with my boyfriend and putting money away for holidays, occasions and other things. I’m trying to make loads of changes with my money mindset and I’m feeling pretty positive about it right now.
I want to become someone who’s a little more frugal and always has a little bit tucked away in case of emergencies or something. It’s not the easiest adjustment I’ve ever made but it will pay off eventually. You really have to be mindful about things so I’ll often ask myself things like “do I want to spend £16 on a face cream I’ll probably use three times or do I want to put that way so I’m closer to my saving goal?”.
Feeling guilty for doing things that you love
Ah, another trait that comes from my people pleaser personality. Say that three times over. Much like saying ‘yes’ to everything, I need to learn that it’s okay to do things that I love for myself or that will benefit me in some way. It’s not selfish to work on yourself at times. That’s one of the biggest obstacles when it comes to personal development I think.
We feel guilty for helping ourselves along but there should be no guilt there. At the end of the day, your life is your own to live. I’m not saying be selfish and put yourself before everyone constantly because that would be destructive on your journey. Let yourself know that you are a priority in your life and that you are allowed to use your time to improve yourself or do stuff that makes you happiest.
Trying to live in the past and future but not the present
I’ve started watching a YouTuber called Renee Amberg and she had a really interesting quote about how the past brings us depression and the future brings us anxiety. While I could never not think about either again, I still believe that it’s really important to live in the present moment.
It’s really vital to reminisce about the past and wonder about the future. But in the present is where the party is happening so fill your glass and stay for a while. It’s a little hard to want to stay at first but once you get comfortable, you’ll love it.
Putting off things that you could have done in minutes
How many times have you put off doing something for days or even weeks and then when you finally did it, you found that it didn’t take nearly as much time as you thought it would. I’m guilty of this. I did it a few weeks ago with my food cupboard.
I’d been putting off cleaning it out and sorting my food for so long and then when I did it, it took me like ten minutes. We all probably waste so many hours by not doing something that wouldn’t take half as long as we thought it would so just do them niggly tasks when they arise.
♡ What things to do have that you think aren’t worth your time?
“Become more aware of what’s really worth energy” – Unknown.
Until next time,